Two Things I've Learned from Week One of Being a Husband

Yes, I know its not technically a full week yet but close enough.


He who finds a good wife, finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord
                                                                                                                  Proverbs 18:22


As many, nay, almost all of you, know I married the woman of my dreams on November 6th, 2015. It was everything we've dreamed of and more. Just thinking about it now really just makes me full of gratitude. The night flew by as many married couples said it would then we spent an incredible weekend in Cape May.

Over that weekend and the days following, I've learned two things that I know have always been true but never really set in until I took on the role as husband.

1) Holy Cow, Jesus Loves Me and My Wife SO MUCH

As I type this, I'm listening to "Good, Good Father" by HouseFires. If you haven't heard it, look it up. It was also recently covered by Chris Tomlin. Let me go over some of the lyrics for you.

"Oh it's Love so undeniable I, I can hardly speak Peace so Unexplainable I,
 I can hardly think As you call me deeper still as you call me deeper still as you call me deeper still into love love love 
You're a Good, Good Father It's who you are, It's who you are, It's who you are 
and I'm loved by you It's who I am, It's who I am, It's who I am"

After roughly 16 1/2 years of hearing that Jesus loves me, it finally sank in and I am completely overwhelmed by the thought of it. Something clicked. Maybe its the tangible blessing of an amazing wife from the Lord. I am overwhelmed by his grace and blessing me with a wife I don't deserve. A wife that is truly the manifest of what it means to be gracious, patient and kind. YET he calls us deeper into a love we haven't even thought of! What?!?! It gets better?!

If I'm honest with myself, this blog has been full of my ebbs and flows in my faith journey. One post about how incredible the Lord is and the next about my doubts. I grew up in the church and have lost my way more than once but through this union, the Lord has showed me exactly who He is and who I am to him. I am His Son and I have received an incredible blessing that I could never repay...and that best part is, Jesus doesn't expect me too..His love is that awesome.

I get it, I'm still in the honeymoon phase of marriage but even when that "phase" ends....my Jesus surely won't. I never knew I could feel the love of Christ so strongly until now and in so many ways it is indescribable.

2) The World DOES NOT WANT my marriage to succeed
  
They want me and my wife to become another statistic about divorce. For the first time in my life, my eyes were opened to the absolutely filth that our brains are filled with each day by the media and culture we live in. Whether its the next celebrity divorce or affair scandal, we are bombarded constantly with lies. 

I won't say that culture has even really played a supportive role when it comes to marriage, but man, they weren't lying when they said it takes work on the daily to keep a loving relationship. I come from a family of divorces, luckily for me, the Lord has used them for good but let me tell you now that the generational sin that fell upon me will end with me if I can help it. 

I know that Jennilyn and I will experience some hard and trying times in our relationship, but when the world says give up and run away, we will be digging our boots in and fighting for our love. It is something we have talked about since the beginning. I am reminded that the Lord wants us to succeed because after all, he put us together. With Jesus, reconciliation is always possible even in the midst of whatever we may be going through. 

To my married friends, especially the husbands, I ask that you remember these two things: Jesus Loves You, Your Wife and Relationship(and let that sink in, don't let it just become cliche) and Fight for Your Relationship

To my unmarried friends, keep the course. I was convinced at one point in life that I was never getting married. Whether you do end up married or not, keep the Lord first always.



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